Changing Personally Inappropriate Patterns

Personally inappropriate and destructive patterns and ideas are changed not by Will necessarily, but by other ideas. One can assume that two very powerful ingredients and levers go hand-in-hand with this concept to change. These are convictions held by almost everyone:
(1) the belief and feeling that one is capable of holding his own, doing his share, exercising a certain amount of independence, and,
(2) the belief that one houses a certain something within, which should not be allowed to suffer indignities.